Reminisce the aim of online dating is to take your relationship offline.

Remember the goal of online dating is to take your relationship offline.

Internet dating, social dating, Facebook dating, or the old-fashioned way of meeting offline at work or with a little help from your friends or grandmother. There are so many more options available to singles dating in the digital age, yet so many can’t seem to connect. What’s a single dater to do?

As an online dating accomplished and coach, one of the top questions I’m frequently asked is, which method is better? Is online dating versus meeting someone offline best to find the ideal date or someone to spend the rest of your life with?

While experts might not agree on this topic, even offline Matchmakers are incorporating online dating and social media into their business models. I believe the response is clear. There is no one-size fits all formula. As each person’s relationship goals may differ from their best friends or neighbors, know that from hook-ups to marriage proposals, there’s a site and way for everyone.

Whether creating an Internet dating profile leads you to marriage or not, finding love online needs to be part of your dating regime, just like finding a job online from a message board or Linkedin can help you find your desire job. Being able to grow and maintain your relationship offline is critical as you go through the different phases of a relationship.

As one who believes in casting a broad net, I tell singles that you truly need to do both. It’s not one-way or the other. In reality, online dating, if done correctly, is just a method or service that will get you out there in the real world to meet someone offline and meet more people. Even sites such as Match.com, Slew of Fish, and Spark Networks’ Hurry Date take their online daters offline with their special events divisions.

However, some truly think the process of finding someone to love is an either-or proposition. I beg to differ. If you’re truly not comfy with the computer and don’t think your iPhone or Android is truly a SmartPhone, you’re leaving opportunities behind that could switch your relationship status to “In a Relationship,” “Engaged” or “Married,” while watching your friends cheer you on.

Here are some pros and cons on finding love both online and offline.

Con: It’s a crowded digital marketplace and can be an grueling practice.

Pro: One out of five relationships embark online. Whether it’s on Social media, Facebook, Twitter, a mobile app, or traditional online dating site, there are a lot of success stories.

Con: People lie about their age, weight, height, income, and marital status. Singles get frustrated after a few bad dates.

Pro: You can meet people outside of your geographic area and social circle with similar interests. You’ll meet more people, so you can learn what you’re truly looking for in a date, mate, or relationship.

Con: It can become addicting to some, who never meet offline or are looking for the next pretty face. Beware of the Digital Pen-Pal Syndrome.

Pro: It’s efficient and available 24-hours a day.

Con: It’s feels like a full-time job for many and you must be organized.

Pro: Many sites provide matching contraptions and send you emails of suggested matches to make it lighter for you to view potential dates.

Con: Many singles limit their search criteria to height, zip code, or income and can miss the chance to meet a compatible match.

Pro: You may have friends in common which will make you more convenient.

Con: You’re not indeed sure of their relationship status.

Pro: You can determine if there’s chemistry in person sooner.

Con: You’re limited to your existing social circles or regular activities and will meet less people.

Pro: It’s pre-dating, without the pressure of wondering if you’re date’s profile is accurate.

Con: Singles may feel bashful and not ask someone out for an official date.

Pro: You can lightly date in groups, while developing fresh friendships with people with similar interests.

Con: You’re limiting yourself to a certain geographic area.

Pro: Dating sites have entered the events business providing you more choices to meet in person, without the pressure.

Con: You’re not truly sure if someone is interested in you romantically at a group event.

At the end of the digital day, if you’re serious about meeting someone special, you must include a combination of both online and offline dating in your routine. Recall the purpose of online dating is to take your relationship offline. Railing into the digital sunset together is now a way of everyday life.

Julie Spira is an Online Dating Accomplished who was a very early adopter of the Internet. She created her very first dating profile almost 20 years ago and coaches singles on the dating scene. Julie’s the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Go after @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the Free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

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