What Asian Women Truly Think About Western Boys
In my life, I’ve often encountered a certain type of Western man who was attracted to Asian women. He tended to be older, white and yes, creepy. I dreamed to know why, so I set out to make a documentary. What emerged five years later, after hundreds of hours of research, including interviews with fellows and women who posted ads for Asian women on sites like Craigslist and Asiafriendfinder, was Seeking Asian Female, an eccentric, tender and at-times awkward love story inbetween a 60-year-old American man and his 30-year-old Chinese fiancé,e. I’m also creating a companion project, They’re All So Beautiful, an online movie series and forum to discuss the nuances of race, romance and “yellow fever.”
However the concept dates back centuries, dating Asian women, or, more accurately, the idea of dating Asian women, has officially gone mainstream. While I spoke to a lot of aging white dudes, I also spoke with youthfull hipsters, black boys and Latinos who desire Asian women. I heard from Asian, Asian-American and many other women about their encounters with this so-called &ldquo,yellow fever.&rdquo, I even interviewed a Chinese woman who&rsquo,s a yenta for guys seeking Asian wives in Silicon Valley. Across all this, a common thread emerged: myths and misconceptions about Asian women are as strongly held as ever. Understanding the difference inbetween fantasy and reality made all the difference for these people and the true stories they collective.
Myth No. 1: Asian women make flawless wives. They have good family values and cater to the man.
Julia Ma, proprietor and matchmaker of Your Asian Connection, says guys who join her club are seeking &ldquo,the old picture of Asian women &mdash, traditional, take care of spouse, cook dinner, clean house.&rdquo, She says, &ldquo,Lots of guys hope for that,&rdquo, but the &ldquo,fresh generation is different.&rdquo, Based in Cupertino, California, home of Apple, where over 60% of the population is of Asian descent, she introduces Asian women to Western studs for a legitimate end objective of marriage. Her female clients are educated, often tech-savvy and, like her, many have been divorced. She believes that Western guys are more accepting of this, yet conversely are thought to have poorer family values.
Still, Julia describes the high pressure in Asian societies for women to commence families at junior ages than in the West. She pridefully states that her female clients are &ldquo,lithe&rdquo, and &ldquo,want to work together as a family unit&rdquo, &mdash, but she&rsquo,s quick to note that they&rsquo,re &ldquo,picky&rdquo, and have high expectations. To them, marriage must be a two-sided contract. A wifey gives face to her spouse in public, but in honoring his end in private, he must put family very first (not himself), cater to her in-laws and, as is traditional in countries like China and Japan, arm over control of the bank accounts to her.