I’ve made posts in the past about qualities of a gentleman, as well as the differences inbetween a ‘bad boy’ and a wank. But, how does this all translate into how somebody acts while in a relationship?
A man may be able to put across a good picture, but it could simply be a cover for hidden shortcomings, or he could just be totally faking it to ‘get the dame.’
Here are some ways to know if you’ve struck gold:
1) A real man values more than just your looks.
Is every compliment from him about a different figure part? It doesn’t matter how creative he can be, if a stud’s foot concentrate is on how you look, or ‘talking dirty,’ see it as a crimson flag. A real man will value your personality, your goodness, your intelligence, and who you are as a person, in general. The things he makes you feel good about will be things that you control, not just results of getting fortunate in the gene pool.
Two) A real man will never be intimidated by your motivation.
A man who has goals for himself, will want to be with a woman who has goals for her own life, too. He will never feel intimidated or threatened by a woman who goes after what she wants. He will want to be part of a power duo, rather than a dictatorship. Be mindful of anyone who attempts to keep you from pursuing your fantasies.
Three) A real man will have more interests than just you.
I don’t mean this in a negative way. You should, of course, be a priority in his life — but he needs to have a life as well. Interests, friends, hobbies, aspirations. If a man works his entire life around you, it’s another crimson flag — relationships should be a good part of your life, but not encompass your entire life.
Four) A real man will give you answers.
No matter how awkward or awkward a situation is, a real man will treatment it, and you, with respect. I have always felt that a mark of a man is how he treats conflict, criticism, and less-than-ideal situations. A man will not dance around answers or make excuses. If there is something you two need to talk about, he will talk about it.
In addition to the last point — there will be no mind games or manipulation in your relationship. A man will be direct, to the point, and fair with you. but with kindliness.
6) A real man will trust you.
As long as you haven’t betrayed his trust, a man will NOT be paranoid, or snoop around invading your privacy to make sure you’re not doing anything bad. He will have confidence in your relationship. A boy will project his own insecurities onto you, and like termites in a house, will eat away at the foundation of what you’ve built.
7) A real man is cool, silent, and collected.
It should be understood that part of what comes with the territory of having a gf, is dealing with her getting hit on. If you’re at the bar together, or if she’s out with her friends, it goes without telling that your gf will get hit on every once in awhile.
Instead of letting his primate instincts prevail and hitting his chest like an angry gorilla to scare off competition, a certain man will calmly make his position known, and understand that you’re still going home with him at the end of the night.
8) A real man will demonstrate you respect.
Nothing indicates an empty shell of a man more than someone who disrespects women, animals, or children. A real man will treat you with the respect that you deserve, never force you to do anything you’re awkward with, and never mistreat you. Be fair enough with yourself to walk away from any situation that is dangerous to you, physically or emotionally.
9) A real man will put effort into your relationship.
Boys are generally apathetic and just look for one thing from a woman. A man, will do what it takes to make you glad, both inwards and outside of the bedroom. Your happiness, is his prize.
Ten) A real man will make you want to be the best version of yourself, without switching who you truly are.
A man will empower those around him. He will strive for greatness and therefore inspire others to strive for it as well. This not only includes friends and co-workers, but also significant others.
As Mark Twain said, “Keep away from people who attempt to belittle your ambitions. Petite people always do that, but the indeed superb make you feel that you, too, can become fine.”